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Thursday, December 16, 2010

Labile

Did you catch Leslie Stahl's interview with John Boehner last Sunday night on 60 Minutes? Most news shows picked it up, The Sniffle Heard Round The World. Stahl seemed utterly charmed, as if she'd just been whining to her girlfriends at lunch that she'd give her all for a man who could show his feelings.



His Teariness is not only not charming; he's not okay. If he were a woman--say, Pelosi or Clinton or Kagan- there'd be some misogynistic mumbling in the Congressional gym locker room about "time of the month."

I've seen those alligator tears before in so-called self-made men. They don't indicate empathy; they point to shallow, mawkish sentimentality and maudlin self-pity. Pick that performance up and move it to a doctor's office and the prescription pad would come out. Put it on the stage and the stage hook would shoot out.

Definitions are in order.
sen·ti·men·tal·i·ty 
n. pl. sen·ti·men·tal·i·ties
1. The quality or condition of being excessively or affectedly sentimental. (The Free Dictionary)
"Rhetoric is fooling others. Sentimentality is fooling yourself." - Yeats
"In modern times  'sentimental' is a term that has been casually applied to works of art and literature that exceed the viewer or reader's sense of decorum—the extent of permissible emotion—and standards of taste: 'excessiveness' is the criterion; 'Meretricious' and 'contrived' sham pathos are the hallmark of sentimentality, where the morality that underlies the work is both intrusive and pat." - Wikipedia 
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Labile: Unstable, unsteady, not fixed.
In psychology or psychiatry, labile denotes free and uncontrolled moods or behaviors expressing emotions. (MedicineNet dictionary of Medical terms)
emotional lability,
a condition of excessive emotional reactions and frequent mood changes. (The Free Dictionary)
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Gail Collins in her NYTimes piece, The Crying Game:
O.K. About Boehner. Many of us first noticed his tendency toward tears when he appeared on election night to celebrate his party’s taking control of the House. He had hardly gotten in front of the microphone before things got watery.
“I spent my whole life chasing (sob) the American dream,” he told the cameras. “Put myself through school, working every rotten job there was ...”
The American Dream has had such a bad year. During the campaign, it was tossed around by billionaire candidates who insisted on telling groups of underprivileged children that they, too, could someday own a mega-yacht or run a slimy but extremely profitable health care corporation.
Now, John Boehner is blaming the Dream for making him howl like an abandoned puppy. It’s what my friend Rebecca Traister calls “Boehner doing Masterpiece Theater on the hard life of John Boehner.”

21 comments:

  1. With health insurance guaranteed for life, free parking at work, and a family that sticks by him thru thick and thin, WHAT IN HEAVENS NAME is he crying about? It's surely not for those who are affected by his conservative "principles".... and I use the term lightly.

    Love the word "labile".... often it's a self-description!
    a/b

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  2. A/B,
    On you, it's likely charming. On the Speaker of The House? I forecast bouts of rage, inappropriate laughter, and a lot more "Hell, NO's!!!!!!!!!"

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  3. I'd cut the guy some slack if he got teary-eyed over all the folks who can't find jobs, who've lost their homes, who can't get necessary medical care. But I don't think his tears flow that way.

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  4. The worst of it is he's getting his DNA all over the place. Which there is too much of already.

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  5. Bizarre and disturbing. We both watched it and simultaneously looked at each other with a WTF expression when he started bawling. And his wife seemed to assume a mothering role with him. Sick and weird.

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  6. I posted this on my blog, too!!! The response was better than what I wrote. I am ashamed of him.

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  7. intelliwench,
    Righty-o! This is all about John. His story is that, if a guy like him can become a financial conqueror, all those darling children could, too--if only those nasty Democrats would go away. And, if only they were more like John.

    Murr,
    Ew.

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  8. Cog. Dissenter,
    Let me whip out my DSM-IV. I thought Mrs. B. had a curiously flat affect and a Pat Nixonish rigidity. As for her mothering, the phrase "damned with faint praise" comes to mind.

    Kay,
    You wrote wonderfully on this and I hadn't seen it yet.

    My favorite lines:

    "I think it's tacky that he even brings it up! And Leslie played to it and treated him with kid gloves. I was waiting for her to say "Poor baby!!!!" or kneel in homage."

    and...

    "Boehner annoys me because he's a hypocrite. While he likes to talk and cry about how tough his life was as a poor kid, his actions in Congress decry (pun intended) any sympathy he has for us ordinary mortals. He supports and votes for tax cuts for billionaires while the people of his hometown suffer."

    Be sure to catch Kay's excellent post, Dear Reader!

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  9. If you had to share a bathroom with Larry Craig, you'd cry too.

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  10. I'm sure the simpletons who think Sarah Palin is a "maverick" sopped up the pap from this expose'. I have no doubt that Time-Warner, who owns CBS, probably heavily funded the conservative candidates who share the locker room with Boehner and his buddies.

    Can you imagine the skewering Obama would get in the press if he showed ANY of that kind of schmaltz?

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  11. I think what bothers me most about Boehner's constant waterworks is that he's always crying for himself. His election night boo-hoos were for of his own struggles to achieve the American dream. The poor thing had to work all those rotten jobs to pay for his education. Gee, anyone else out there who worked to pay for school? How much time do you devote to tearing up every time you think of it?

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  12. Octo,
    Santa votes "Naughty."

    Robert,
    ONLY white males in congress could imagine that serial tear-jerking on camera wouldn't wreck their political careers. Boehner's tears say everything there is to say about both Boehner and about institutionalized gender bias and color bias as they still affect us. All the rest know how much both their behavior and their voting record matters to the other 98%.

    Sheria,
    Bulls eye!!!

    Mr. Boehner, sit down, shut up, and listen to some real American sorrows. This is NOT about you.

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  13. I actually know squat about Boehner (so I later checked out Wikipedia) but my reaction to the clip was to roll my eyes and say, "Give me a f*cking break." Then "Milk it, baby, milk it!" The reactions of an uninformed Canuck! :)

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  14. And Obama gets criticized - by his own no less - for being too "cool" - for not talking to reporters after he was injured in that basketball game. Geez.

    Hell, it took me 10 years to get through college because I had to work my way through. Of course it was the 60s and I did have a few other priorities. ; )

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  15. Knatolee,
    I love having the Canadian perspective. Stand by for milking time.

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  16. PS: I had put something about this on FB. Shaw left the following quote:

    "If only Boehner wept as copiously for the poor and the sick as he does when confessing his own greatness." ~Roger Ebert

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  17. Boehner should get a fucking Oscar for his cry-on-queue bullshit.

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  18. tnlib,
    "..a few other priorities." I understand Mr. Boehner has a few other priorities, too. Maybe not the same ones you had in the sixties, though.

    That quote is perfect!

    Dusty,
    My alter-ego has spoken!

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  19. My pleasure to be your token Canadian, ha ha ha!

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  20. I seriously love how you filed this under "cry me a river". I expect we'll see more. Sigh.

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  21. And people vote FOR this guy instead of another. Crazy.

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