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Friday, December 24, 2010

Hopeyness: The Conceit of Attainable Felicity


It's been a painful week for prognosticators like me. How do we prepare for a future we can't divine?

Is the economy picking up will there be jobs will conservatives step up to govern will they devote the next two years to hamstringing and disabling the president all is lost but he struck such a canny deal he knows exactly what he's doing they will bring the country to its knees in their rush to wield power maybe the corporatists are satisfied money will flow again you can't continue to grow an economy forever is it possible we'll never feel like one nation again what's going to happen to us?!

I keep trying, but I'm just not smart enough to read these chicken bones or decipher these entrails and I'm frankly distrustful of anyone who says they can. Punditry, be damned tonight.

Watch out for power,
for its avalanche can bury you,
snow, snow, snow, smothering your mountain.


Watch out for hate,
it can open its mouth and you'll fling yourself out
to eat off your leg, an instant leper.

Watch out for intellect,
because it knows so much it knows nothing
and leaves you hanging upside down,
mouthing knowledge as your heart
falls out of your mouth.
(Anne Sexton from Admonitions To A Special Person, Hat Tip to RAMH )
This is a tough spot for a worrywart eyeing a new year. I'm left to say I don't know. For this little minute, before the next inevitability, I am free to choose how to feel. I'm free to be wrong about what comes next. And so are you.
Herman Melville seems to have articulated and hoped for this kind of possibility.  Writing 30 years before Nietzsche, in his great novel “Moby Dick,” the canonical American author encourages us to “lower the conceit of attainable felicity”; to find happiness and meaning, in other words, not in some universal religious account of the order of the universe that holds for everyone at all times, but rather in the local and small-scale commitments that animate a life well-lived.  The meaning that one finds in a life dedicated to “the wife, the heart, the bed, the table, the saddle, the fire-side, the country,” these are genuine meanings.  They are, in other words, completely sufficient to hold off the threat of nihilism, the threat that life will dissolve into a sequence of meaningless events.  But they are nothing like the kind of universal meanings for which the monotheistic tradition of Christianity had hoped.  Indeed, when taken up in the appropriate way, the commitments that animate the meanings in one person’s life ─ to family, say, or work, or country, or even local religious community ─ become completely consistent with the possibility that someone else with radically different commitments might nevertheless be living in a way that deserves one’s admiration. (Sean D. Kelly, "Navigating Past Nihilism")

For tonight...oh, let's be rash!...for the whole of the next week, let's wallow in the conceit of attainable felicity.

17 comments:

  1. Love this. I am, of course, partial to my own journey, but I also revel in the undeniable truth of the manifold path. In all my pursuits, spiritual, social, intellectual, that is perhaps one of my favorite ideas. We are all entitled to our terrestrial wanderings, and how liberating to realize that if my own becomes undesirable, I have but only to shift my degree and discover another. Consider me wallowing ;)

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  2. Merry Christmas, Nance! Happy holidays to you and your family :)

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  3. I sent emails to my local elected officials before the latest "compromise" expressing my opposition to it. I knew they would vote for it anyway but I stood on my lonely ground of principle.

    After the deed was done Sen. Hatch responded and defended his inevitable vote with what I presume is a form letter, explaining how he protected the economy because he protected small businesses that hire 70% of the workforce --which businesses' taxes are paid by individuals, blah blah blah. He did not explain why Bill Gates et al needs a tax cut. But he did remind me "the federal government doesn't have a revenue problem -- it has a spending problem ..."

    Thank the Monotheistic God those Republicans don't like to spend our money.

    //sarcasm off//

    Lovely post with a lovely message. I think I'll spend the day basking in the myriad small joys. Happy Holidays to you and yours, Nance!

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  4. Frank,
    It's good to hear from you, my young friend. May your shifts of perspective be merry and bright.

    Averie,
    Merry Christmas to you, Scott, and Skylar! I imagine you all in Aruba today.

    Cognitive Dissenter,
    Could we be more confused, nationally? I need a solid week of denial and I mean to take it. Happy Holidays to you and yours, too!

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  5. I hope y'all have a blessed and joyous day!!!

    I'm wishiing sticks and coal to all members of the House and Senate except Bernie Sanders who actually showed some guts!

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  6. We may not get perfect, but we'll get the egg, cracks and all.

    Happy holidays and peace to all.

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  7. "watch out for intellect" indeed. Almost everybody else I know is just fine with this new round of tax cut.

    I love what tnlib expressed above. I am trying to hide under the cover and pretend everything is going to be fine and that I am not frustrated at all.

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  8. Attainable felicity.... what a lovely concept, Nance. My personal space is small but cozy and if my joy isn't your joy I hope yours makes you as happy as mine does me. So, before I veer off into RDLaing-ian nonsense I will stop typing and start smiling :)
    a/b

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  9. I can see you and raise you years of attained felicity, which I would wish for anyone but do not know how to transmit. All I know is, it has nothing to do with the state of the world, about which I remain hopeless. I am fortunate enough that hopelessness (guilt, regret, diet soda, and other things with no good purpose) slides off me, and the felicity is underneath.

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  10. Kay,
    I hope Santa was extra good to Bernie. What a guy!

    tnlib,
    Omelets. Egg nog. Custard. I'm making myself hungry.

    Absence,
    Move over, honey. I'll hide under that cover with you.

    Ashleigh,
    Here's to idiosyncratic normalcy! Gosh, there are no two alike...

    Murr,
    You are a fortunate and gifted woman, indeed!

    With so many of my liberal and progressive acquaintances, I've been in real danger of losing my fundamental felicity in the past two years. It feels like I've been willing the Ship of State along by clenching my stomach muscles and blowing into her sails. I can't keep that up; I'll do myself some damage.

    It's time to narrow my focus to my own hearth and hope it is not too late...nor the national goads too cruel.

    You think all those Diet Cokes could be the problem? That pesky aspartame!

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  11. Attainable felicity - Is that anything like "irrational exuberance"?

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  12. Robert,
    That is the very question on the table, and my flippant self would answer, "Precisely the same thing."

    My more serious self is concerned with how, as individuals, we who believe the sky has fallen can avoid anomie and anhedonia. I believe that we have a responsibility to model courage in diversity. Maybe that's no more than a fifties child's admiration for her grandparents' comportment through the Depression and her reverence for the Brits in WWII. I don't advocate fiddling while Rome burns, but I refuse to settle for bitterness in my last years.

    The conversation I long for is about how our generation can maximize quality of life and worthy contribution in the face of what many of us are nearly convinced is disaster?

    And that may well be another blog post.

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  13. Oh, please write that post, Nance. This is a concept which was much discussed this weekend and it's a conversation I'd love to continue... and you are just the girl to do it :)
    a/b

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  14. Nance, I feel the anxiety too.

    I want to be terribly optimistic, but conventional wisdom and what I know of human history, make me very distrustful of getting caught up with unbridled optimism.

    It is almost like optimism acts as an opiate. The more you sample it the more you want, but the more you take, the more your senses dull and the less you care about anything else.

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  15. Ashleigh,
    Hope to get to it today. Thank you for the encouragement! My son and DIL come in tonight for DH's birthday tomorrow (New Year's Eve!).

    Kyle,
    Not being naturally optimistic, I've never been drunk with it, so I'm not afraid it will dull my perception; I'm just looking for maintaining emotional health. Health, in my view, includes a full range of emotions...whatever is appropriate to the circumstances...but a baseline of minimal well-being is vital to that. Otherwise, we risk being demoralized to the point of victimization, to the point of impotence. That won't do on any level.

    No bliss-ninny business, no joy-mongering, just emotional stability and resilience--and those are high goals in this climate.

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  16. I've been waiting to stop by to tell you how much I love the word "hopeyness." Especially if not used in an arch/ironic Colbertian way, a la "truthiness."

    Hubert Humphrey's nickname was "the happy warrior." There are worse ways, much worse ways to be remembered. Tea Partiers often seem sublimely unhappy warriors -- I'm a goddam WARRIOR, goddammit, because somebody's gotta be! -- and sometimes, especially recently, I've caught formerly happy warriors of the left in the process of becoming unhappy zone-outs.

    A 20-something nephew of whom I have been unspeakably proud on most fronts, including the political, broke my heart in November: he confessed (to the world -- via Twitter, no less) that he simply hadn't voted. He dismissed it as only right, because he didn't know enough about all the issues and all the candidates -- he's in California -- but I kept thinking back to how happy (and yes, hopey) he'd been two years before.

    I know you must know the proper scientific or statistical term for this -- it's a sort of bias to which people are prone in (I think?) multiple-choice tests, or opinion surveys and such. It goes like this: people tend to favor, to ascribe importance to, the option which they have most recently experienced. This trumps even common sense. It's where the new-and-shiny preferences come from. It's why (I think) Americans use the channel selectors on their TV remotes and cast their ballots in such similar ways: CLICK... CLICK... CLICK...

    Writing on a different topic, a/b recently asked: Why can't people just leave well-enough alone? I'll tell ya, the gods of restlessness have got a heck of a lot to answer for.

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  17. P.S. Have a HAPPY New Year! (And The Missus's birthday is on January 1. :))

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