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Sunday, May 2, 2010

The Bluebird of Ambivalence

I'm not sure I'd look this happy!
I am absolutely whipsawed this week by the news!  In an effort to live less large, I'm seeking relief not in planning a trip or going shopping, but in my own backyard. Bill McKibben would be proud of me.

I wonder if I shouldn't better be blogging on compelling current events:  the disastrous oil spill in the Gulf of Mexico and speculation about Halliburton's culpability; the Arizona immigration insult; the flooding, loss of life, and more flooding in Tennessee (my darlings are safe and that IS another blog post!); the implications of Greece's financial implosion for the EU and, ultimately, for us; more fractured politics and disruption of the productive processes of government...and on and on. I've got books on my nightstand that I'm scared to open: McKibben's EAARTH, Michael Lewis's The Big Short, Frank Schaeffer's Crazy For God.  The news is a minefield for the pensive personality, but I can't bring myself to withdraw long term.

I listened to a podcast of  McKibben's interview with Tom Ashbrook yesterday at NPR's "On Point," and came away a worried believer.  McKibben holds that the Earth has already changed beyond the point of no return, that we can't go back to the growth model we've known, and that we're in for a tough adaptation--that has already begun, but, for the most part, beneath our conscious awareness (See: Tennessee, and that IS another blog post!).  He submits that we will do best to accept a future that bears little resemblance to our past.  Ashbrook pushed McKibben hard to provide a model to help us imagine life in that future and Eaarth's author selected Western Europe's ways of life.  The good news is that someone who has thought about it long and hard can imagine that we'll survive.  The bad news should be obvious today.

I'll know better when I've studied further, but my initial impression was that life will be a lot like it was for my grandparents in the small-town South throughout the 1930's and '40's, when gas, shoes, sugar, and much else was rationed, food was almost entirely locally grown, and one's own family and immediate neighbors made up a rich social universe.  Peas were shelled on a shaded porch in the hot afternoons, pre-air-conditioning.  As children grew up, married, and moved away, rooms were let out to widows, widowers, and mature single people.  Books, local newspapers, and talk were state-of-the-art entertainment. Since my grandparents largely continued to live that way through my childhood, with those same frugal habits and that community-centric lifestyle, I think I can imagine some aspects of Eaarth.  At least McKibben grants us the internet; we'll visit distant friends via social network sites, make new ones through blog communities, and resort to camcorders when we can't contrive to have our children and grandchildren within walking distance. Whew!  Maybe I won't lose you, Dear Reader.

For this day, my coping is stretched too thin by bad news to take in more of McKibben's thoughts via print; the book will wait a day or two.  I'm going to focus on my most immediate neighbors: the flora and fauna in my own yard...and with more pictures than usual today. This smaller world provides all the amazement, drama, triumph, and silliness I need for now.

The Bluebirds:  We have a tough time keeping the sparrows out of the bluebird house until the blues are ready for it.  DH uses a whiffle golf ball to plug the opening, taking it out when a bluebird has been spotted on the roof for a couple of days in a row.  If a sparrow moves in, the ball is back.  It's a tedious process, lasting for a couple of weeks, so DH amuses himself as best he can.

Darwin's revenge on Alien House Sparrows

This year, the Bluebird Pair finally got its act together, built a barely adequate nest, and laid one lovely blue egg before the Alien House Sparrows showed up, cracked the egg, and left it on the ground outside the nest. We coaxed the blues back with mealy worms, but, so far, they look more confused than anything else.

Honey, do you have the feeling there's something we're supposed to be doing?

Our favorite bluebird shot came from a few years ago, when we had a very successful mating pair that raised a large brood.  At one point, in the fledgling feeding frenzy, Papa Blue bit off more than he could chew.

I'm tired of grocery store runs, so I'm stocking up!

One year I peeked into the box after I noticed that the birds had not shown up for a couple of days--right in the middle of what I thought was nest-sitting time.  There were four blue eggs and a big, brown-speckled cream-colored one.  I pitched the unwelcome invader into the lake and headed for Google Search.  A brown-headed cowbird had been watching our blues and knew just when to slip her own egg in.  I asked an experienced birder on a bluebird forum whether the blues would come back to their eggs and was told they probably wouldn't. AND I was told not to destroy the cowbird egg, since cowbirds are protected.  Not by me!  I'm still waiting for the Cowbird Cops to show up and arrest me.  It's been about three years since the crime; if the cops show up this week, I'll know it was you that turned me in.

The Bottom Forty:  Our Circular Square Foot Garden comes along well.  The spinach is ready to harvest, but the chard needs a week or so.  The tomatoes are promising, but one of the basils has big, bold leaves and taps its foot impatiently.  I'll have to keep pinching back flowers to keep it producing.




Plants Can Be Neighborly...And Even A Little Threatening:  The Blue Anise Sage is as deep and rich a blue as Papa Bluebird's mating colors and Bill McKibben's pullover.  We've planted a sweet lavender clematis on one side of a trellis and red mandevilla on the other; we'll try to keep the clematis blooming with regular infusions of plant food so the two can twine together.  In this shot, they've just discovered each other and seem a little surprised.  And, finally, my son's almost-mother-in-law (is there no name for my relationship to her?) owns a plant nursery.  When I told her I love vines, she offered something she'd just gotten in and wasn't very familiar with.  It's called Dutchman's Pipe, but, when it budded and bloomed, I began to wish I hadn't planted it on a trellis so close to the bedroom window!  Look at the size of that...THING!



I have the strangest feeling of deja vu.

That's DH's sizable paw to the left!

Took your mind right off the news for a minute, I hope!  I'll be posting briefly on our kids' experiences in the Tennessee floods as a bonus post. McKibben and Thomas Friedman don't have to work any harder to convince me of global weirding.

What do you do to renew and restore yourself between news cycles?  Is it still working for you after a week like this one?

13 comments:

  1. I figure what you, and your authors say is true. There is some small comfort in that I am convinced we are talking about the later adult lives of our grandchildren, or maybe their grandchildren.

    Why would I take comfort in that? I believe the change will be gradual, not an abrupt upheaval. Slowly lifestyles will change...adapt.

    This leads me to consider the abrupt lifestyle change over my life....even the past 20 years. We have coped...maybe not have gotten smarter...but coped. Perhaps our grandchildren will cope, and get smarter in doing so.

    I worry in that you worry so. Worrying simply will cure nothing. Informing may help cure. You are wonderful in informing. You are getting too wrapped up with so much worrying.

    Oh crap...it just hit me that I am lecturing a professional in the workings of the human psyche. Just accept it as the opinion of a concerned friend.

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  2. Jerry, you are a doll and thank you for your very kind concern. (He's got a stupendously good blog, too, Dear Reader, and you should high-tail it over there by clicking on his name here and scrolling down his profile to his blog).

    I am a worrier, you're right. I argue with my kids that I am a "dedicated realist" but they still wish I wouldn't fret so. I use humor to settle myself. As to cautioning the professional, have at it! I always submitted that it was my personal experience that allowed me to empathize deeply with my HSP clients [Highly Sensitive Person; I kid you not, that's not only a book, but a whole field of therapy in CA. Google: Elaine Aron]. Irish setters point pheasant; I point trouble. Somebody's gotta do it ;)

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  3. You just keep on worrying, Nance. As another dedicated worrier I know that the whole house of cards will collapse the moment we stop expecting disaster. Just like the blue birds, though, we'll keep coming back for more, because we are, beneath it all, optimists at heart. How else could you counsel others?

    I loved your photos and the stroll through your yard. So glad your Tennesseans are safe and your vines are twining.
    a/b
    ps. I love Jerry's blog,too!

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  4. Hi Nance! Love all these landscape pics...wow your photography is just sooo pretty on these!

    So some news for us. We are SD bound. 6/1 Not announcing anything and no, havent sold yet. But one way or the other we shall be back about 10 blocks from where we were. Small world, life lessons, and back where we started. Kinda sorta.

    Anyway, hope you're doing well. Other fun stuff has been happening in my life. Keep seeing Mature Landscaping posts tally in my reader inch up and up and wanted to say hi :)

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  5. Much as I appreciate (and enjoy, I really DO enjoy hearing from informed persons their take on this world we live in) the news notes, I really love the moments of quiet introspection and glimpses into the...I guess you could say mundane, but that word is really just so inadequate and off-putting...I guess we can go with normal, day to dayness of my friends' lives. Thank you so much for sharing, Nance! And WOW, the flowers on that vine are HUGE!

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  6. I was working on my Sunday post just now, and got to thinking about your cocktail party question, "So, what do you think of life so far.". It occurred to me that posts like this one where we examine the normal, WONDERFUL things in our lives, and share them...that is how we talk about what we think of life so far. I'm not sure that it's a fair question to just spring on somebody, but it does sure seem like the answer can bring us all so much closer together... I think I might just spring that one on somebody myself this week. Ha-ha-ha!

    And as an ACTUAL answer to that question, I don't know if I'm just a glass is half full kind of person, or if I've just noticed that if you work with him, God does a pretty decent job of making sure things work out, but I think that so far, life is pretty wonderful.

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  7. The other night, we watched that silly John Cusack 2012 film. Everything Goes Wrong: the Earth's crust shifts, the magnetic poles get blown all over the map (the South Pole ends up over what we know as Wisconsin), the Yellowstone super-volcano erupts, tidal waves swamp (yes) the Himalayas...

    After watching the movie, it was interesting to think about what life would be like for the survivors. They were "lucky," to be sure, but were they really... uh... lucky? I'm not so sure.

    I look at my niece and my nephews, my step-daughter and -son, and try to imagine them living in a fundamentally changed world. It seems impossible; they've all adapted so well to the pace and rhythms of THIS world (not that they have a choice!)... But life a lot like small-town life in the '30s sounds less like a disaster than a gauzy-photo corrective. As long as we can do it with the Internet and sans Great Depression, of course.

    (Other side of that coin: if that's what the "First World" will look like, what about the 3rd, 4th, and 5th Worlds??? Probably not so gauzy.)

    No idea what's the best way to cope between news cycles. I go through long periods -- currently about a year -- when I almost cannot stand to stay tuned to ANY news. I just recently saw a site -- http://wtfcnn.com/ -- which shows the current CNN home page at the top, and the current home page of any of several alternative news sources at the bottom. Catch it at the "right" moment and the results can be pretty ghastly... Tiger Woods and Sandra Bullock vs. European political crises and Chinese earthquakes.

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  8. I'll check that site out, John, and thanks! Re: those gauzy decades, I guess I was trying to put the best face I could on everything for this post. I know, however, that there was nothing gauzy about it for my grandparents and their neighbors; it was painfully hard. What they had going for them--and sometimes this was ALL they had going for them--was that they had their family within walking distance and they made their friends within a small radius. I'll tell that story someday. For now, I'm trying to imagine how it might be for my grandson and his family, or, perhaps, for his grandchildren. I'd like to think they will adapt as they go along, just as we have to our rapidly changing world. We are the most adaptable of species and that gives me some hope.

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  9. I don't know which scares me most, thinking about the world as it will be or looking at the last couple of photo's.

    I need a nap. Nap's usually improve things.

    Darla

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  10. When I was young, there were two grocery stores within a couple of block and yes, they sold local produce in those tiny places.

    So you knew about cowbird eggs! And I'm so impressed with the whiffle golf ball trick! My flower beds are full of them, thanks to the grandsons.

    I have a TN friend who planted 5-finger Akebia and Dutchman's pipe in planters so the plants would eventually grow over her garage doors. I planted Akebia and it almost ate our house. I always thought I should have planted the Dutchman's Pipe instead. You've made me feel much better. WHOA! That thing is HUGE!

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  11. Bluebirds nesting on your property?! Well done. What a delight.
    We've had great crested flycatchers use our bird houses in years past. Last year, however, a rat snake figured out how to get into one, ate the baby birds. The flycatchers avoided it like the plague after that. This spring I moved it to a tree-snake-proof location. A single day later my wife and I were delighted to see a pair stealing nesting material from our garden and entering the box with it. Success!
    But that success was temporary. The next afternoon I had a half hour of yard work to do in the vicinity of the birdhouse. Apparently, my timing couldn't have been worse. They haven't been back.
    Damn! Maybe next year.

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  12. Your photos were indeed a welcome respite from the news! I haven't seen a bluebird since I was a kid; kudos for all your patience in getting them to nest!

    Love "On Point", too! My favorite on NPR.

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  13. Thank you for reminding me of the simple and yet essential beauty of a bluebird.

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