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Thursday, April 29, 2010

"You! What planet is this?"

-- McCoy, (questioning a person he meets when he suddenly and unexpectedly finds himself in 1930's Chicago), "City On The Edge of Forever", Star Trek, the original TV series.


Stephen Hawking believes there are alien life forms elsewhere in the galaxy and he thinks we should avoid them. In his documentary series for the Discovery Channel, he states,“We only have to look at ourselves to see how intelligent life might develop into something we wouldn’t want to meet."

Mr. Hawking, you're a genius, but we don't have to go to Titan to find aliens to avoid. There's a nest of them in Westboro, Kentucky and, what's worse, they're on the move and headed to a high school near us.  Below, please find an item on the picketing schedule of Westboro Baptist Church, led by alien life form Fred Phelps (these are the aliens who loudly picket military graveside services for Iraq and Afghanistan war vets, attempting to disrupt them because the US military has homosexuals in its ranks).


How should we handle an encounter with life forms so bizarre we cannot comprehend them? Stephen Hawking says to avoid them, but what if they make themselves unavoidable?  What if they strike where and when we are most vulnerable?  Say, for instance, when the country is struggling with self-induced financial catastrophe; when we seem divided against ourselves; when our children don't know where they will find a job when they graduate from high school or college; when we can't legally stop lunatics from turning the funerals of our veterans into venues for travesty?!  What if this is the time they target our children by picketing outside their high schools?  What if this is the time that insanity and evil arises and proliferates among us? Well, of course it is; when else?

In March, 2006, 20 year old Cpl. Matthew Snyder was killed in an automobile accident in Iraq and his remains were returned to his family for burial.  Westboro Baptist Church picketed that funeral and were sued by the corporal's father, who was awarded $10.9 million in a 2007 verdict.  Leonard Pitts, in his syndicated column, reported,
In September, an appeals court tossed that verdict out. Nor is even that the worst of it. No, the worst is that the court recently ordered Snyder to pay Westboro's legal bills. Snyder, who makes $43,000 a year, must pay $16,500 to the people who made a circus of his son's funeral. "You can do the math," says his attorney, Sean Summers. Snyder has been forced to seek donations online (www.matthewsnyder.org). Westboro says it will use the money to give the same treatment to another grieving family.
Frank Schaeffer, author of Crazy For God, called the Tea Party a part of The Perpetual American Lynch  Mob  in his April 15th article for the Huffington Post.  You can bet that he'd count Westboro in that category.  Stronger terms may apply. Schaeffer has some advice for us; if you missed his appearance on MSNBC, here's your chance to see it:



As I try to decide whether the best response to Westboro's planned demonstrations at high schools throughout my city is no response, I'm not alone.  Churches (real ones), school administrators, education superintendents, parents, and even some sophisticated, upper classmen are pondering this in each city Phelps targets.  Children, of course, cannot ignore a demonstration like this one.  Nor can most of us at any age; it's a train wreck, for heaven's sake!  Who can not watch?  Teens who are trying to figure out whether to trust their parents and teachers are highly vulnerable to people who would make a grab for their minds so blatantly, loudly, and with such base certainty.  Let's hear the usual chorus of, "Not my kid!," and get that out of the way.

For me,  there's this additional irony:  The date of the demonstration is the day before my son's wedding.  The bride, groom, and most of their wedding party graduated from one of the high schools to be targeted by Westboro and will all be in town the day of the demonstration. I know those young adults (most of them have recently turned thirty); I know their values and, in general, their political leanings. Their alma mater, the school whose name is X'd out above, shares its grounds with an elementary school, which means the young children will also be arriving for classes at the same time as the older students and will not be able to avoid seeing that demonstration, those signs.

I can't help but wonder what those young adults, those friends of our family, would want to do in this situation. What would you do?


Follow Up: May 3, 2010:  I've  gotten some strong responses to this post and did a little info dispersement locally.  I can't take responsibility, but I'm pleased to see that the local news is now on top of the planned demonstrations and that a counter-protest is to be staged at the very school referenced above:





19 comments:

  1. vervezest-2009@yahoo.comApr 29, 2010 05:52 PM
    I felt shame when I got as far as the end of the video (not due to the video) and then thought that’s not quite right. Regret – regret that these pseudo Americans are so entrenched with the way other Americans live their lives that they apparently have some need, which I can’t fathom, to focus their psych on people they don’t have any clue about. I don’t feel anymore these “people” are human beings, much less Americans, because they don’t act on the basis of respect for others or for the values that this country was founded.

    I loved Frank Schaffer’s comments, esp. “mental collapse” and “fake grass movement”; similar to the all these caffeine parties that have sprouted.

    I’m not a religious person, per se., but I do believe in respect and integrity. Regarding “Who is following their lusts….” and “Who is the scoffer”, and “But his blood will I require at thine hand” – I’m very sad. “Let He Who Is Without Sin Cast the First Stone”.

    Terribly sad. An old woman told me a story about a man and his friend walking through a village and the village folks threw stones at the man and cursed him. His friend asked, “Why do you not respond?” The man said, “These are their gifts to me and I choose not to accept them”.
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  2. Years ago, I was an American expat living in England, and when I first arrived, there were customs and manners that took some getting used to. How to hold one’s knife and fork at the dinner table, for instance. We switch them, the Brits don’t. In fact, it bothers them to watch an American eat, and this was the first of my many Americanisms that I was forced to change.

    The Brits have a term: That’s just not ON!, with heavy emphasis on the last word. It is a common admonishment used by parents to correct their children. Customs and manners are not ensconced in law or etiquette books but universally understood throughout the realm. In America, we have no standards of civility and decorum (maybe once upon a time, but no longer).

    The Brits have freedom of speech just as we do, but bad manners are just not ON!. In America, free speech is synonymous with “anything goes.” In most parts of the world, verbal and emotional abuse will merit a swift rebuke … even an intervention by the law. Ann Coulter, for instance, is not welcome in Canada. In America, even the most offensive speech is constitutionally protected, and I think this is a root of the problem.

    In America, who is to dictate what constitutes good manners and social decorum? Certainly we want to protect diversity and multiculturalism, but do we want to protect emotional and verbal abuse?

    Defamation is not considered free speech, or incitement, or perjury, or yelling ‘fire’ in a crowded theater. Where do we draw a line? Certainly an argument can be made that emotional and verbal abuse deprives victims of their freedom. Should it be lawful to humiliate people?
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  3. I don't know how we allowed the 1st amendment to be hijacked to be used as a weapon. The policy behind freedom of speech was that the government would not be allowed to shut down discourse; there is nothing in the writings of the framers to suggest that the intent was to allow a bunch of vicious crazies to intimidate and insult others. Civility is a virtue and of value in allowing us to live collectively. The Westboro Church group chooses to intimidate by insisting on bringing their protest to venues where they can display their lack of human decency and force others to witness it. That's not freedom of speech, it's terrorism of speech. The lower court got it right; the appeals court is just plain wrong. The law does not require such a decision, certainly not based on the 1st amendment.

    As for what to do about the planned protests, that's the rub. I can see merit in ignoring them, not even acknowledging their presence. However, I also think that you bring up a significant issue--the impact that such demonstrations, left unchallenged, ay have on the vulnerable, particularly children. I think that the children need to have it carefully explained to them that these people are motivated by hate and that their actions are cruel and without merit. I don't think that any of us can simply ignore these people. They will not simply go away and some will hear reason in their message without other voices to counter that message.

    Love the Star Trek reference; that's one of my favorite episodes from the original series.
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  4. Ah, if only I could take these lads for a SHORT cruise...
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  5. Now that I've got a larger ship, with Plank.
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  6. vervezest-2009@yahoo.comApr 30, 2010 08:13 AM
    N,

    What did you think of Schaeffer's interviews?

    "Terribly sad", in the last paragraph of my previous comment, was not in reference to the story of the 2 men. In fact, the story has allowed me to unburden my thoughts from harm-doers; it's liberating.
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  7. Alright. Now I'm bummed.
    What an alien orientation! I don't get it. The protesters hardly seem one of my kind.
    Personally, I believe in treating individuals with compassion and respect (providing they aren't pointing a gun), but all ideas are on the table.
    So, yes, go ahead and write diatribes about why "homos" are going to hell (I could barely type that, so repulsive is the sentiment to me). But stay out of the face of those that morn or celebrate something or someone you disagree with. Unless, of course, gun barrels are pointing your way.
    Compassion and understanding for individuals, criticism for ideas.
    Is my guideline misguided?
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  8. This stuff is so hard to watch. Schaeffer says it's time for the rest of us to move on, and leave the lunatics shouting on the hilltop, and I'm very close to doing as he advises. An ongoing problem, though, is that the folks on the hill have been granted such enormous megaphones. News media (and this includes Rachel Maddow and Keith Olberman, btw, both of whom I admire beyond words) continue to treat the politically insane as newsworthy, in ways that they'd never treat (say) people who believe the moon to be made of green cheese.

    As a native New Jerseyan transplanted to the Deep South, I was appalled by that poll. I did notice (see full thing here) that it took place in September '09, during one of the utter troughs of President O's first year in office. I hope since then that at least a few more percentage points might now believe that maybe he's not ushering in the end times, after all.

    (I also note -- which I missed in the Maddow clip, although she may have gotten it right -- that the figures cited are percentages of Republicans, not of all surveyed.)
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  9. Good points, John; you've got to watch those statistics...they're tricky little devils.

    Dear Readers, I'm very sorry to have bummed you out! If Phelps' crew hadn't trespassed on my territory, I'd have driven on by (Nothing to see, here).

    I promise you gardens and bluebirds shortly!
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  10. Oh Jeebus Christmas!!! These folks could be in for the beginning of their apocalypse! Now I don't want to get too ugly...but they may have picked the WRONG time to be hatemongers at the beach. Not only do I need to be at the church (right near the HS) on Friday but I also need to go meet with the Photographer who is in Watson's Riverside. Dear readers...this will take me right past the hate parade. I really do not need the 5 o'clock news headlines to be "Crazy Protesters taken out by one Pissed Off Bridezilla and Her Gang of Miscreant Bridesmaids" let's face it...I got stuff to do. And the last thing I have time to deal with is ignorance and hate. I will have a few "fags" at my wedding and I want to make DAMN sure that they are comfortable...especially with the insanity that will be going on near there. Hopefully for their sake they can understand that my God hates unfinished to do lists and being late for appointments.

    Besides how the heck would they even be able to get on the grounds of SHS...we did call it Socatraz for a reason. You can't get in and you can't get out. Well unless you bribe Coach McKelvey with a Whopper. :)

    On a more realistic note, it saddens me that this is going on at all. I do not agree with many of the things going on in this country and the war we are in, but I am very thankful that there are people out there who are willing to risk their lives so that I do not have to think about: how I will eat tomorrow and whether or not I am safe in my home. And most importantly I am thankful that these brave men and women afford me the luxury to think about such frivolous things as chocolate sea shells to garnish my wedding cake. I have given a lot of thought to the non-sense of weddings and I am realizing that EVERYTHING that I have for this simple event is a luxury.

    The other side of this is that there are equally strong feelings towards loving America and our soldiers right there in good ole SC. I can think of quite a few Good Ole Boys with big trucks that would have a thing or two to tell these folks...or they would show them what the oyster beds look like at high tide. ;)These folks may be using their freedom of speech to cast that first stone, but I can almost predict that somewhere someone will greet that stone with a much stronger form of violence.
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  11. The local paper printed something on this demonstration, finally, in this morning's edition. The demonstrators can't be on the grounds. At this time, that leaves them with the church's property, the local strip mall's property, the chain drugstore's property, or the middle of the street. I vote for that last option. They're scheduled to be there in the morning around the time the kids are arriving for school.

    Nobody gets to mess with The Bridezilla!
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  12. Oh my...if they are up in the church parking lot when I go to decorate the church we are gonna have a problem. I mean come on...I have been rather nice this whole time. I haven't made any insane requests...ok maybe asking Marc and Frank to wear a tie for a few hours is a a bit much...but it is a wedding. I mean the Bridemaids are wearing flip flops for Christs sake! I am beginning to think that Blaire is so upset about that Carolina Blue dress (she's a State fan) that she must have called the VooDoo lady down in New Orleans (this is most crucial info...I must tell you;)) I really don't want to introduce them to the bottom of the Intercoastal Waterway!
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  13. How completely sad, sick, and frustrating. Some part of me doesn't want to give up on these people, but when facts and logic have no power of influence it is hopeless.

    The pic at the bottom is particularly disgusting, as the children in those shirts couldn't possibly have an idea of what they are advertising.

    As for the folks near my old high school, the most powerful response we can give them is no response.
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  14. Via email"
    Stage a counter demonstration. You really have to wonder at someone with the hubris to claim to speak for God. Stephen Hawking would tie them up with "string" and send them to another dimension.
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  15. I'm sitting here with my mouth agape. I must live is a perfect little bubble. Who knew the great lengths that idiocy can reach?
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  16. The leader of the miscreant Bridesmaids is now ticked off. Lauren and Marc can tell you that this is a VERY bad thing. First, these "beings", as they are not people at all in my mind, have been on my nerve for YEARS now. If I am able to ignore them, this would be to their benefit. If not. I know some folks that could "disappear" their behinds with a quickness. Hate is such a nasty thing, but hate based on ignorance is just beyond words. Go ahead and let them mess with us. I just can not wrap my mind around it. Please do not worry about the impact they will have on the wedding party and guests. We are bigger people with hearts of love, not hate. They can not sway our hearts or minds!!
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  17. I've seen these folks on TV and all I could do was shake my head. I am always amazed how people use the Bible to twist their beliefs into a kind of weapon, and then use little kids to promote hatred. I'm not sure if you should even engage people like that, but then are you turning a blind eye? Such a dilemma!
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  18. Via email:

    This is unbelievable insanity. Yet I live in the heart of fundamentalist Christian right wing republican country and recently received a tea party email! (She doesn't know who she's messing with!) But I fear I keep my values and opinions to myself. There are a very few like-minded others, but we are a very small minority. It wounds me to see and hear about such cruelty. Wish I had an answer but I don't. I wish like Frank we'd just pass the idiots by!
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  19. Wow. I am flabbergasted. I always just assumed that no conservatives will go against the military. This is beyond crazy. In comparison, Tom Cruise seems pretty normal right at this moment. Please tell me that the picture with those two kids? The shirts are photoshopped. Please. Just lie to me. Ugh. Mr. Al Snyder has a Facebook page with 300K+ supporters. (Well, I assume most people on that list are supporters, but you never know. Sometimes trolls join as "fans" just so they can leave ugly, hateful comments...) I hope he wins the battle. This is beyond ridiculous.
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